Monthly Archives: November 2016

It is not grumbling.It is always necessary to vent out our feelings and FB is a good channel.What you have written is true and many people feel the same way.It is tough to lead life in old age.Not all persons are the same.I can quote my own example.I live alone but I have a part time cook and a woman to do the other works.I have my daughter’s family living 2 km away.They send me the driver if I need anything or some occasional outing.I love my solitude and the calm life.If someone comes home or chats on the phone,I am happy but if they are too busy,it is ok with me.One solution may be retirement homes.Many people are not receptive to the idea.You are taken care of,medically,housekeeping is taken care of and there may be like minded people to chat with or indulge in religious activities.Choice is yours.

Retirement Homes.In yesterday’s paper there was a feature on Retirement Homes,which set me thinking.This is a subject which has been in my mind for quite sometime and something which is often discussed when senior citizens meet.What was just an option for people who could not look to the convenience of parents,either because of their jobs in some other place of residence,even a different country,has now become a reality which senior citizens are willing to try .This would free them from the cares of everyday living like servants,cooking chores and most importantly health care.
Some years back there were only senior citizens homes,where the elderly were left for various reasons.From monetary constraints to physical or some family problems were the reason.Not all cases were apathy and not all were run sloppily.There were some NGO’s who genuinely did a good job.All the same there were some badly run ones where the inmates were left uncared for and unattended.This brought a bad reputation to the whole picture.There were cases of neglect when they were seriously ill and needed attention more.
Then came the concept of retirement homes where one can buy a flat or cottage for a price and will be owned by them.There is the question of affordability and not everyone could buy them.Now there are various schemes and categories to choose from and still the main clientele would be parents with N.R.I’s as their offsprings or upper middle class people.
There are cases where the couples voluntarily opt for it.Reasons being like minded people,constant medical attention and avoiding other problems they have to face,as simple as finding an electrician or a plumber.Moreover in this busy world their children are busy carving a career for themselves and other responsibilities like bringing up their own children and securing their future.No parent would want to add to their burden or worries.Nowadays fortunately the earning capacity of people has increased.They don’t mind keeping their parents in a comfortable place,well cared for ,with amenities for medical emergencies.There should not be any stigma attached and no one should be blamed.It is not as if the parents are sent there as punishment.There are also cases of childless couples opting for it and feel more secure.
There are cases where these retirement homes fall short of expectations.They fail to deliver whatever was promised.Senior citizens who had pledged their life savings in investing in these properties,were left in the lurch.
There is a counter point.Either the parents or their offsprings are not happy about this and everyone wants to live as one family,whatever be the inconveniences.This calls for a compromise and lot of adjustments from everybody concerned.There would be frictions because of the high stress levels and there may be additional responsibilities like taking care of the grand children an age when they would like to put their legs up and relax.Undoubtedly there are some pleasures which come with it.
Now comes the question of people who may not be so sociable and outgoing by nature.These are the people who would be happy if they are left alone,doing whatever pleases them.Case in point is me.I won’t be happy in a company of religious or spiritually inclined people.I would be happier in my own company though I like to welcome anyone who visits me and spend time with me.There may come a time when I will have to give way,because of medical problems.Till such time I would like to maintain this status quo.I am sure there would be many who would feel the same.Would welcome comments,either way.
Lastly,my family doctor’s observation that senior citizens who live by themselves are healthier.Ultimately much depends whether both spouses are alive or due to some misfortune,one is left alone.